But think carefully about whether she is simply making a nominal offer and is secretly impressed by your chivalry in picking up the tab.
For example, if it’s dinner and an after-dinner cocktail for a second date, it’s great for the woman to pay for the cocktails at the second destination. Ultimately, paying the bill on a date shows It’s a gesture to let someone know you’re interested in them and appreciate them. A date should feel like a treat and it doesn’t when it becomes an accounting transaction.”I have to agree based on my own experience.She'd been dating a guy for three months and hadn't reached for her wallet once; could he think she was a gold digger? "Sure enough, he was almost out the door," says Lever, who reconnected with the woman several years later, when she was in the process of moving in with that very suitor."The bottom line is this woman could have lost a really good guy—and for what? "Lever loves this story—she references it several times during our initial 40-minute phone conversation.Aside from whether men should hold the door for women, few seemingly frivolous issues have fanned the flames of anti-feminism as much as who should pay for dates between men and women.It’s a subject that seems to never die — see yesterday’s Guardian feature on “Paying while dating” — because there are always a subset of men who insist that it’s absolutely unfair that as the world has gotten closer to gender equality, men are still expected to pick up the check.The world of dating is sometimes difficult for Jewish singles to navigate.